Learning to Manage Discord in Relationships

Learning to Manage Discord in Relationships

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Managing Dispute

When managing discord in marriage, couples that are able to understand and manage their emotions and behaviors, as well as understand how their partners respond to discord, are significantly better equipped to have functional relationships. This is related to a concept known as Emotional Intelligence. The Gottman’s have found that couples that are able to tolerate and manage dispute do well, whereas those that don’t manage dispute well often divorce. The Gottman’s uncovered four behaviors that are exhibited during dispute that either sustain conflict or lead to even greater conflict. Dr. D’Arienzo will discuss each of these behaviors, labeled the Four Horsemen, also known as criticism, stonewalling, defensiveness, and contempt. Dr’ D’Arienzo has provided antidotes for each, so let’s take a closer look at the first horseman:

Criticism

The first of the four horsemen, and often the most common one, is criticism. When managing conflict in relationships, it is a natural human behavior for people to seek an explanation for their negative feelings and, over time, people can develop a negative habit of mind. According to John Gottman, most relationships have an element of “criticism”, but it is imperative that couples work on reducing the level of criticism that they give to their partner. Criticism can have devastating effects because it makes the victim feel assaulted, rejected, and hurt. It often causes the couple to fall into an escalating pattern where criticism reappears with greater frequency and intensity. Further, when a relationship become negative or highly conflicted, most feedback is perceived as negative. In fact, even constructive criticism is considered negative. Research shows that for every one criticism given, five positive statements are needed to counteract the negative effect of this one statement. This makes it challenging when a relationship is already toxic because it is very challenging to have constructive conversations. Try to avoid being too critical as it will help to stop a downward spiral.

Stay tuned to learn about the other three horseman: stonewalling, defensiveness, and contempt.

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