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Ways to Resolve Discord: Part III
Dr. Gottman has created a five-step technique to talk about a problem or significant issue that has to be resolved. Keep in mind that the objective is to better comprehend your partner’s perspective rather than to win the debate. When I work with couples, I want them to feel heard, understood, and appreciated for who they are as individuals. By taking the preceding steps, the problem frequently deescalates and the couple finds a solution. Couples that get along and don’t have conflict easily agree to disagree. Couples who have high conflict are threatened by disagreement. In using the five steps below, couples should work through each step together.
- Feelings: Share how you felt about the situation. Do not say why you felt that way. Avoid commenting on your partner’s feelings. Stay in your lane.
2. Factors: What is your “reality”? Pass the hat. Describe and at least somewhat substantiate your partner’s reality. Keep in mind that you shouldn’t feel threatened by their realities. Because we pay attention selectively during disagreement, couples often recall the same event differently.
3. Triggers: Share what experiences or memories you have had that might have escalated the interaction and the stories of why these are triggers for each of you. Own your own trigger. Don’t blame, criticize, or minimize your partner’s triggers.
4. Responsibility: Accept responsibility for your part in the altercation or occurrence. Defenselessness is the reverse of this. When we assume a little responsibility, our spouse feels less threatened.
5. Constructive Plans: Plan together one way that each of you can make it better next time. Now that you both have a better appreciation of where your partner is coming from, you have been heard, and you each have taken some of the responsibility for the regrettable incident, you are better able to find a resolution with your partner.
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